Reasons and Contexts of The Formation of Parallel Relationships From The Point of View of Family Counselors Among Couples in City of Ahvaz City: A Qualitative Study

Masoumeh  Bagheri; Marziyeh  Shahryari; Mehran  Bondori; Banoo Beigy  Malekabadi

doi:10.18502/qjcr.v23i91.16933

Masoumeh Bagheri PhD in Sociology, Associate Professor of Sociology, Department of Social Sciences, Faculty of Economics and Social Sciences, Shahid Chamran University of Ahvaz, Ahvaz, Iran.
Marziyeh Shahryari PhD in Sociology, Assistant Professor of Sociology, Department of Social Sciences, Faculty of Economics and Social Sciences, Shahid Chamran University of Ahvaz, Ahvaz, Iran.
Mehran Bondori PhD student of Sociology, Shahid Chamran Ahva University, Ahvaz, Iran
Banoo Beigy Malekabadi PhD student of Sociology, Shahid Chamran Ahva University, Ahvaz, Iran.

DOI: https://doi.org/10.18502/qjcr.v23i91.16933

Keywords: Parallel relationships, pure relationship, hidden objection, family counselors, grounded theory

Abstract

Aim: The purpose of this research is to identify the attitude of family counselors towards the reasons and contexts of the formation of parallel relationships among couples in city of Ahvaz.

Methods: This research was conducted using qualitative approach and grounded theory method through theoretical and purposeful sampling, in which 20 counselors of public and private family centers participated in in-depth interviews. The theoretical sampling process continued until the data saturation stage was reached. The collected data were analyzed using open, axial and selective coding.

Results: The emerged model includes three dimensions of conditions, action-interactions, and consequences. The "conditions" dimension includes the deterioration of public attitudes and opinions, virtual space facilitating extra-marital relationships, sensationalism and lack of body care, couples' unwillingness to talk to each other, not maintaining the boundaries of personal life, immersion in family roles and social, imposition of choice and hidden protest, experience of modern love and marital frustration, not being able to cope, lack of satisfaction with married life, "action-interaction" dimension, including trying to relieve the significant other, "consequences" dimension, including the elimination of the culture of shame and modesty, self-deception and other insidious deception, fighting with oneself and obsessively searching for love, social isolation and the prevalence of social harms, which are formed around the core category of "hidden objection to life without love".

Conclusion: Given that, parallel relationships are a danger to the health and safety of the family and society. Therefore, by using the concepts extracted in this research, experts can identify the platforms for the formation of parallel relationships and examine the strategies, and it can be a guide in couple therapy and pre-marital counseling.